Putting Children FirstIf you have children, and you are considering legal separation or divorce, you must put the interests of your children first.
All too often, parents in the middle of divorce cases feel very strongly that they are "in the right" and that the other parent is "wrong." But these parents fail to realize that the children are not keeping score, and niether is the judge. In fact, a mother or father who focuses on a "win/lose" analogy or metaphor in disputes of child custody, parenting time, or child support, has likely only set the children up to be the ulimate losers. Because children who are put between waring parents cannot help but take the conflict personally.
How can a parent avoid putting their children in the middle of divorce? Every parent in Oregon who proceeds through a divorce case must attend a divoring parents seminar. It is not a parenting seminar for unskilled or neglectful parents, but rather an educational seminar designed to teach parents how to avoid putting children in the middle of divorce disputes, and to assist parents in making sure that the needs of their children come first. In addition to attending this seminar, parents may also find it helpful to review some additional materials on child-centered solutions to problems that arise in divorce cases. Some families may also benefit from parent counseling or child counseling.
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